Grief is a universal experience of almost all people irrespective of cast creed or religion. Loss of connection is priory for grief situation. Weeping, brooding and sighing are three main components of grief. Hysterical constitutions are more prone to grief-
Grief anxiety and depression are three states of human mind. The outlines of these three mental states are so intermingled that sometimes it becomes very difficult to clearly demarcate and identify the boundaries of these states. The one common thread running through all of these is the depressed state of mind. In spite of the broad similarities of their nature
What is grief?
What is grief? In some dictionaries, grief is defined as deep mental anguish, as that arising from bereavement. Deep mental anguish arising from bereavement is one fundamental component of grief but bereavement is not grief. Some others have defined grief as the natural, human response to a significant loss. This is a very general definition of grief. People experience and express grief in unique ways of their own No two losses are the same between people and even for the same person at different times. One can experience grief symptoms on multiple levels, physical, Mental, Emotional, spiritual.
Loss of connection
The loss of connection is a priory or a must for grief to occur or happen. Some others define grief as normal reaction to loss. From all the definitions and expressions of grief one thing is clear that almost all have taken loss as one of the main ingredient or component of grief. Let us try to narrate and analyze other components of grief.
Components of grief
Weeping or not weeping is also component of grief. Loss of sleep and loss of huger are also components of grief. Brooding is on the most common component of grief especially is nervous constitutions. Some may call these as results of grief. Sometimes nausea, vomiting May also accompany grief. From psychological point of view grief is a situation of sorrow, the manifestations of which may be in various ways. The situation is not so important but how the human mind reacts to it or responds to it, is all the more significant. We all know that different people act differently to one situation. Even one person may act differently to one situation at another time. Not only situation but the circumstance in which it has happened or occurred is also important. Grief is mental situation which has arisen due to some social response, or which has arisen out of some unknown reasons or circumstances 0ver which one has nocontrol. The situation in itself is not grief. Grief is objective social reality/situation, how we respond to it or how we react or enact to it?, is all the more important. Our response is the grief not the social situation. Suppose someone in the family dies. It is tragic social situation. It is not grieful in itself but the response to this occurrence of the family members is the real grief. By induction we have reached on the conclusion that grief is purely a subjective phenomenon. From this analogy it seems evident that grief is not in our conscious control. We may increase or decrees it as we like. As it seems to be apparent it is not so in reality. It is right that one,’s reaction to the sorrowful event depends on one’s mind. How we are to r act to a situation is beyond our control. It depends on our mental make up, or mind set, our disposition our temperament, our constitutional state of the mind. We are governed by the powerful urges, drives, instincts and tendencies of our mind which are not in our conscious control. Had the human urges and derives been in one’s control there would have been no angry and furious man on earth. There would have been no acts of violence on earth.
Our conscious mind comprise of only ten percent of its total composition. The ninety percent part of our mind is occupied by is unconscious mind that derives us. Our conscious mind is only that part of an iceberg that is floating in the surface of an ocean. We have no control on our unconscious mind. There are two major constituting elements of our mind. These are responsible for composition and chemistry of human mind. One factor is hereditary the other is social milieu or environmental. Third is our will our own self. Is will so dominating a factor that can have its own way? Not at all, our self is not independent of these factors it can not work in isolation of these factors. In fact there is beautiful coordination and hormone between different factors. When this hormone is disturbed we become mentally sick. We can not work independently of these factors. That is why we have categories of people, we have constitutions of people, we have classes of people, and we have temperaments of peoples. There are certain factors or features that mark or characterize those peculiar temperaments. One type of temperaments reacts out of proportion of situation instantly and simultaneously in an exaggerated and excessive way. The people belonging to this class are called hysterical and impulsive. And it is no wonder that these people are the most grief sufferers. They feel the pain and grief most intensely and excessively. Their nervous system is always excited and they react to stimuli. The typical term for this constitution is nervous and hysterical constitutions.